The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

A candid memoir of denial, stolen identities, betrayal, faking it, and coming out.

Do you know me?, the email began, sparking tremors of fear that turned into a full quake of panic when William Dameron discovered that his selfie had been stolen by strangers. On social networks and dating sites, his image and identity—a forty-year-old straight white male—had been used to hook countless women into believing in lies of love and romance. Was it all an ironic cosmic joke? Almost a decade prior, William himself had been living a lie that had lasted for more than twenty years. His secret? He was a gay man, a fact he hid from his wife and two daughters for almost as long as he had hidden it from himself.

In this emotional and unflinchingly honest memoir of coming out of the closet late in life, owning up to the past, and facing the future, William Dameron confronts steroid addiction, the shame and homophobia of his childhood, the sledgehammer of secrets that slowly tore his marriage apart, and his love for a gay father of three that would once again challenge the boundaries of trust. At the true heart of The Lie is a universal story about turning self-doubt into self-acceptance and about pain, anger, and the long journey of both seeking and giving forgiveness.

Title:The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out
ISBN:9781542044745
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  • Barbara

    William DameronFortysomething William Dameron (Bill) had been married to his wife Katherine for twenty years when she confronted him in a Walmart parking lot. "Just park the car now Bill," she said. "...

  • Megan Collins

    This book explores William Dameron’s struggle to come out as gay—both to himself and his wife and children—and his attempt to wade through the wreckage created by his decades-long lie and find a...

  • Julia Phillips

    A beautiful, compassionate, and achingly honest memoir about coming out later in life. Just gorgeous....

  • Lisa G.

    Incredible!It's always hard for me to choose between the monthly Kindle 'first read' pre-release book selections. It's my monthly "gift" from prime, so I carefully peruse each description, weigh the n...

  • Paul M

    This book was so well written, so compelling that I read it in a single reading on a cross country flight. The writing is so clear and beautiful that I never had to stop and re-read or try to figure o...

  • Christy

    I loved everything about this memoir. A story about the author coming out in later life after a very long marriage and two teenage daughters. You shift back in forth throughout different time periods ...

  • Stacy

    Beautifully heartbreaking I generally hate any type of memoir, or really anything other than fiction. I chose this book because I am a divorce attorney and have been involved in cases much like Mr. Da...

  • Glenda

    This was a beautifully written book. I felt very close to all the characters and could feel their emotions. Bill Dameron is a middle-aged man, who finally comes “out of the closet”. He has a wife ...

  • Pavellit

    I stayed up until 4 am to read this book and instead of feeling exhausted when I finished, I wanted more.....This memoir was so touching, sincere, compassionate and uplifting. And even humorous in spo...

  • Steve Moskowitz

    Excellent writing and a compelling story....